It's safe to say that the characters in "P's Parties" by Jhumpa Lahiri are doing okay in life. Not just the main characters, but every person the narrator sees or knows of in his orbit, both in his home in Rome and at the occasional parties that form the backbone of the story, has enough income to be essentially free from worry. Couple that with the ample vacation time we always hear Europeans get, and their lives seem enviable. So enviable that the tone of urgency the story begins with comes off as a little self-unaware and unintentionally ironic. "I should note straightaway" leads the reader to think that something terribly important is about to be communicated, but what follows is just an explanation of the timing of the parties the narrator enjoys going to once a year. These parties take place during the "mild winters we typically enjoy in this city," with this city being Rome. The people in this story are so privileged, it even seems like nature serves their whim, tempering its winters just for them.
It's perhaps strange that the narrator values the parties so much. He isn't especially close with anyone at the parties, including the host, whom he simply refers to as "P." He engages in superficial banter, eats crudite, watches kids play soccer on the lawn, gets a little drunk, and feels smug about the foreigners who are so proud of having come to Rome and adapted to it. He claims he likes that the parties are "an unpredictable gathering" and that he enjoys the "commotion of the crowded house," but during most of his life, he demonstrates anxiety about the unpredictable and he is peevish about his own wife's chattiness.
The narrator sees the adventurous foreigners as essentially there to take advantage of Rome and enjoy it, but not really part of it. He treats them the same way, ready to tour their lives briefly in order to have a story to tell later. The narrator is a writer and like all writers, he's a bit of a voyeur, enjoying the sites and smells of the women at the party while being himself hidden by the anonymity a crowd provides. He doesn't like that his own son has gone off into strange parts of the world and adapted to a new life, because he feels anxiety about what might happen to him, but he is happy to take advantage of the adventurous types brought to him, bringing stories to his door like Amazon packages.
Bodies of water both big and small present themselves as a threat in the story. The narrator's wife has been traumatized her whole life by how a man had a heart attack in a pool when she was on vacation with P as a child. The narrator himself is almost hit by a boat that doesn't see him when he is swimming in the ocean. So it's telling that the narrator compares the crowd to the ocean, but in a harmless way: "You’d encounter two distinct groups, like two opposing currents that crisscross in the ocean, forming a perfectly symmetrical shape, only to cancel each other out a moment later." At P's parties, the things that normally make him feel anxious are stripped of their threat.
Maybe it's the predictability of them that appeals to him. With life's uncertainties that lurk at the back of his mind, the narrator appreciates how the party, which he's been going to for decades, is the same every year. He recites the route there like he could do it in his sleep, and yet like he values it for its predictability. The narrator perhaps admires the adventurous foreigners while also joking about them, but their adventure is not for him. He's part of the settled-in-Rome "current" at the party, who are the "type of people for whom just moving to a new neighborhood in their thirties—going to a new pharmacy, buying the newspaper from a different newsstand, finding a table at a different coffee bar—was the equivalent of departure, displacement, complete rupture."
And yet, adventure still finds them
There are five parties in the story. There are also five times danger rears its head through all the reassuring sameness and privilege the narrator enjoys. The first is the swimmer who died when the narrator's wife was young. The second happened to P and is, in fact, the origin of the parties the narrator finds so reassuring. P had some unspecified health scare and had to be saved by surgery. She started the parties, perhaps as a "life is short" sort of observance. She invites the doctor who saved her to them. Somehow, though, the things she holds to remind herself that life is short and death can come at any time are the very things the narrator enjoys because their reliability make him forget that life is short.
The third is the feinting of one of the children playing on the lawn during the first party in the story. It turns out to be nothing, but it was momentarily frightening and it leads to the narrator meeting the boy's mother. This is the start of the central incident of the story. The narrator manages to link this to swimming, also, even if only in his mind, by comparing the coats the children have laid on the lawn to "towels left on the beach while everyone goes for a swim."
The fourth is when the narrator is almost hit by a boat while swimming when he and his wife join P's family on vacation, and the fifth and final one is when P dies at the end of the story, which leads to the last "party," which is her funeral.
For all the privilege the narrator and his circle enjoy, and for as assiduously as he seeks to avoid anything out of the ordinary, death and uncertainty still stalk them. Nobody is exempt from random tragedy. You can be a healthy-seeming former competitive swimmer, and you can die in the middle of racing someone in a pool.
The way calamity threatens even the lives of the wealthy in the middle of enjoying their lives reminds me of another moment in Italian history, the kind of Italian history the Roman natives of the story have forgotten. The explosion of Mount Vesuvius in in 79 AD covered the town of Pompeii in ash and preserved many of its citizens as they were. The plaster molds made of the victims stand today as the ultimate memento mori. The novel The Last Days of Pompeii paints a picture of gluttony and life being drunk to the dregs that was going on just before the volcano blew. Those were people caught by death in the midst of life. The narrator calls the host of the parties by the initial "P," and I can't help but link that to Pompeii.
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If this can happen to your child when they're right next to you, no wonder the narrator worried about his son when he's far away |
The narrator's fascination with L
The narrator describes the main incident of the story as a "banal disruption" that has remained a "caesura," or an "interruption" or "break" in his life. It's interesting that he describes it this way, because the parties are themselves caesurae to his life that he enjoys. While the narrator claims to be chagrined by his actions with "L," is it possible he also actually enjoyed them?
The narrator doesn't initiate contact with L. In fact, he barely talks to her throughout the story. But he's fascinated by her, borderline obsessed. When he meets L, he's just lapsed into thoughts about his son, who is now grown. The narrator is having a harder time adjusting to his son living far away than his wife is. He has a "hole in his heart," he says, which is sort of like saying he has a "caesura" in his heart. He's kind of in a vulnerable state, child-based-angst-wise, when the son of L has an unexplained fainting spell on the lawn. The doctor writes it off an "just one of those things." When the narrator runs in to retrieve his wife's shawl as they are leaving, he finds L. In her own moment of distress, she is unexpectedly and disarmingly open with him.
She's perturbed by how unexpected it all was. "A mild shock...what does that even mean?" she sneers. She was afraid her son was "going to die. In the middle of a party, at this house filled with people I barely know." She's afraid, but she's also angry. Death can just come anywhere, anytime.
I think this is really what draws the narrator to her, what makes him fantasize about meeting her once a year, not to have an affair, but to just be in her presence, to nod at her, to think that she fills the empty spaces in his life in a way his wife cannot and to believe he does the same for her. She noticed that when the doctor was checking out her son, he didn't move away. She figures out it's because he was also thinking of his son, and they soon realize that they share an anxiety over their children. He understands that she has "brushed up against the worst thing that could possibly happen."
Between parties one and four, L goes through a transformation. By party number two, she seems much more comfortable at the party, laughing and telling stories. By party number three, she is nearly fluent in Italian, and her family has decided--as the narrator thinks all the people from the other circle at P's parties eventually do--to leave Rome and go back where they were before.
For the most part, the narrator doesn't want anything from L except to glance meaningfully at one another and to share some secret, unspoken knowledge. This holds true until the end of the fourth party. This party is the outlier. P and the narrator's wife used to go to an island retreat every summer when they were children. But this is where the man dying in the pool happened, so his wife has never gone there as an adult. She changes her mind one year, though, saying maybe it's time to get over the past. While on the island, the narrator gets through his writer's block, starts to create a short story about L in which the fictional version of himself actually does have an affair with the fictional L.
Near the end of the vacation, L and her family unexpectedly show up on the island for a day and a night. When they leave, the narrator drunkenly moves from kissing her goodbye in the non-sexual Italian way to kissing her on the neck. He apologizes, but L is outraged, his wife is outraged and humiliated, and his whole fantasy world is ruined.
The symbols of the pool and the ocean
Pools are generally safer than the ocean. There aren't sharks or rays or jellyfish in pools, and the chlorine keeps the e. coli to a minimum. The narrator's previous sexual fantasy came from a woman he had very fleeting contact with at a pool just before meeting his wife. This is the kind of relationship he wanted to repeat with L:
An ancient, ridiculous memory came back to me then, from just before I met my wife. I was going to a gym with a pool at the time, and every week, by the pool’s edge, the same girl would smile at me and say hello. She swam in the lane that I’d take over. For a few months my entire week revolved around that brief encounter by the pool, to the point where I’d even rush to the locker room to make sure I didn’t miss her. We never talked about anything. She’d just say Have a good swim, or something like that. But every time she looked at me and spoke to me, it felt as if I were the center of her world. We ran into each other in this way for a few months, then she stopped showing up. A couple of months later I met my wife—but early on, in bed, I’d picture the swimmer’s eyes, her smile. That’s all.
The narrator likes the safer version of bodies of water to swim in, just like he prefers the safer versions of relationships. P is a contrast. She doesn't like pools because there's "nothing living in them." P loves life. She loves to throw open her home to guests. When she comes near death, she throws parties. When their home is burglarized, she throws a party. She cries when her husband sings badly for her and he tells her guests she loves them.
The one time the narrator is adventurous enough to go into the ocean, however, he almost dies:
One morning I decided to go for a swim, to clear out my head before sitting down to write. The mistral had just moved on, and the water was once again a sheet of glass. I climbed in from a small sheltered cove, first checking for jellyfish. My destination was a red buoy, which I swam toward through a beautiful patch of green sea, following a school of minnows. I was out in the middle of that patch when I saw a motorboat heading straight at me. I stopped and waved an arm, but the boat kept coming. I didn’t shout, it would have been pointless. Out that far, all sounds are swallowed by the sea’s silence. Feeling slow, weak, frightened, I somehow managed to move out of the way, and I made it to shore.
He has followed the "living things" in the ocean and almost ended up dead. He'll soon regret even the imaginary adventure he was cooking up in his story. He retreats to the pool, both literally and figuratively, going back to his safe ways.
Of course, tragedy can strike anywhere, even in a pool. That's why P prefers to just enjoy her life, but the narrator likes order and predictability as an obsessive attempt to limit risk. He's sort of like J. Alfred Prufrock in T.S. Eliot's poem, hanging out on the beach and listening to the mermaids, but never braving the waves enough to dive in himself.
Should the narrator have just had the affair?
The narrator has never had an affair, which he notes is very unusual in Rome. He suspects that his wife, with her full and busy professional life, probably has, but he's actually okay with it, as long as she keeps it discreet and limited. He thinks that by being tolerant and not demanding too much of her, he and his wife have "survived twenty-three years together with no major disruptions, no earthquakes." Again, the earthquake image brings Vesuvius to mind, as there were several leading up to the eruption.
Being faithful can be admirable, but the narrator spends a lot of time surreptitiously inhaling the smells of other women and noting carefully their skin and hair and clothing. His fidelity is only partly based in believing in it as something noble in itself. He's also faithful because he's risk-adverse. When thinking of his son, off in the world in a new city with a new girl eating new food and going new places, he thinks that his son has become a "version of me I'd never allowed to form, that I'd neglected, blocked out--a version that, even without ever having existed, had defeated me."
"P's Parties" is a "life not lived" story. The narrator's life is contrasted with P, who did live a full life. The narrator was only able to experience P's happiness vicariously. His life, like his abandoned story, is "a promising start" he'd "tried to finish." But the only happiness he can find is fleeting and in fiction.